Bachelor Number 1 was shorter than me. It wasn’t a huge deal to me; I just noticed it as we stood at the bar, ordering drinks. My snap judgement placed him in the 5’4″ range, which is around two inches shorter than I am.
“That’s funny.” I thought to myself. I checked his profile before I left. Like a college football recruit, his real life stature definitely didn’t match the roster. He definitely listed himself as 5’8″. I made a point to wear kitten heels so I wouldn’t tower over him. Or slightly outedge him. Or anything of the sort. Because lately men have really made me aware of the importance of height in a relationship.
I realize that some females are attracted to height. It’s not on my list of must haves, though. It’s never been something that has mattered beyond a note in my head of “Oh I’m taller” or “Oh, he’s taller”. Never. But until I delved into the world of online dating, I had very little idea of just how essential it was to a lot of men. In fact, Katie at DateMeDC.com warned me once and frequently posts about the fact that almost all Match.com dates are going to be two inches shorter than their profile indicates. So far, she’s 1 for 1 with her prediction for me.
About six months ago, The Boyfriend was emailing me what he found to be a super amusing story. Apparently his girlfriend found (and dated) The Friend online about a year before she met The Boyfriend. (Yes, do the math, and the timeline works out that I was with The Boyfriend and The Friend while she was dating The Friend. And now she is with The Boyfriend. It’s positively incestuous but whateer.) Anyway, the actual funny part of the story to The Boyfriend was that The Friend represented himself as 5’10”. I would say The Friend is actually somewhere between 5’2 and 5’#’. If true (and for some reason, I just really, really want to doubt this story), I am shocked that he would lie by eight inches. He doesn’t compensate for height with cars or shoes or anything of the sort. So to find out that he was so severely conscious of his height was a shock. And I towered over him. He must really hate me for that.
I sincerely acknowledge that everyone has their own preference. A frequent commenter here recently said he is attracted to women taller than his 6’0″ stature. But it seems that, more often than not, men are self-conscious about their height and are lying about it. It’s almost on par with the women lie about age/weight thing.
I don’t find a man shorter than me unattractive. I find someone who misrepresents their stats online and expects me not to notice in person unattractive. Of course I’ll notice. But at least give me the credit that I am a person with a soul who’d give you a chance even if you are 5’4″. Do
And I wonder more about what women are out there. Are we really rejecting droves of perfectly normal men because they’re under 5’10”? And if so, is that the reason we tell them? There has to be something happening that is causing this crisis of faith in leg length with men all over the country.
And now that I’ve blogged about this, I’m starting to wonder if it really matters to me after all. Harump. this online dating stuff? Way too complex.