I’ve shared this existence of this little blog with several more people in my real life lately. The Match.com news caused me to be a little more brave, a little more excited, and a little more gossipy.
Most of them say the same thing. First it’s “Oh my gosh, you’ve been blogging for a while!” and then they say “Oh my gosh this is so you, Blonde!” and then finally they conclude with “But are you gonna tell these poor guys you’re a dating blogger?”
And that’s usually where I go silent. I don’t really know what I should be doing. And honestly, in the amount of time I’ve had this blog, the issue hasn’t really been relevant. But I realize that now that I am actively on Match.com, it’s probably time to decide what is fair to these dates.
I figure I have a few choices.
Choice one is that I tell them, up front, what I am doing. Hi, I’m The Blonde, you’re cute, and I blog about dating. I suppose this way, it’s all on the table. Then again, I might never actually get to the table.
Choice two is that I can go out, have a good time, and decide somewhere after the first encounter if they need to know that I blog. Maybe when things get serious? Maybe before things get serious? I realize that if I met someone and was that serious, I wouldn’t keep blogging about them directly. This blog existed before I dated, and it can continue after. I guess?
And choice three is that I never tell them. But I don’t know exactly how long I can keep a secret.
Choice one seems impractical, but then again, so does choice three. I run the risk of ruining a good thing with both of those choices, the way I see it. There seems to me that if I date someone, there eventually comes a ‘point of no return’ where I should have revealed my “secret” and the lack of information seems weird and wrong. But there also seems to be a point where it’s too soon to tell someone. I’m not dating for the blog, I am simply blogging as a byproduct of the dates.
I promise this–I will never go on a date for the sake of this blog. I will never meet someone for the sake of material, and I will never continue seeing someone for the sake of this blog. And of course, as usual, no names. No way to easily identify my victims.
What’s ethical? What makes the most sense? Are there any dating bloggers out there with advice?
I already started joking with some friends that I didn’t reveal the blogging gig to Bachelor Number 1, but considered it when I felt the date wasn’t going well. It was almost my “Panic Button” move. When in doubt, reveal the dating blog. And then maybe the check for dinner comes a little bit quicker?