I know, I know. You don’t have to remind me that you come here to read about my adventures in dating..and that as such you expect me to actually date. I get that. And I’m trying. Just as much for myself as I am for you guys!
Yesterday my friend (she needs a nickname here..I’m gonna call her The Brunette until she complains!) The Brunette asked how my pursuit with OKC was going, as I haven’t updated that here in a while and she hadn’t heard me mention it.
Truthfully, it hasn’t been going. I don’t log in much, I hadn’t responded to anyone in a couple of weeks. I complained to her that I thought the people in my city maybe aren’t the most dateable, and that despite their creepy letter stating that I would see better looking people, I hadn’t really noticed any. And for someone like me to say that, it must be serious. Because The Brunette consistently complains that I have bad taste in men anyway!
Well, about an hour after complaining to her and determining that free OKC was terrible and that if I wanted any sort of relationship clearly I needed to be on a pay site (like Match or EHarmony), my friend had signed up with OKC, created a profile, and was facebook chatting with a match. By her description, he sounds like her type! I am excited for her, for sure, and hope that at least her dating leads to interesting topics here. insert sad trombone sound.
I guess I haven’t really read much about how to online date, or create online profiles to attract what I am looking for. The only pieces of advice I really recall in this whole scenario are from (who else?) Patti Stanger. 1) Have professional photos made for your profile and 2) Don’t pose with a beer, you’ll attract alcoholics.
I don’t think my pictures are the problem. I think I got a few good matches in the beginning and wrote them off for silly reasons. The guy who asked me to go watch a football game the same day we were matched…? And I wrote him off and I believe I used the word “CraigsList Killer”? I sort of regret that. He came up yesterday in my matches, and I read his profile again. Besides being super attractive, I think we had a lot in common. Oh, also he was interested in taking me out. Way to go, Blonde, way to go.
I’m not saying I think he was The One To Rule Them All or anything of the sort . I’m just saying if I keep turning down decent men who are interesting and interested (in me), then I’m not serving myself whatsoever.
So I’m going to re-energize my OKC profile, answer more of their match questions, and make an effort to put myself out there. If it doesn’t work, I’ll consider a pay site, but I can’t really see why if I put effort in this time, it won’t pay off somehow.
I have a challenge for you, though, readers . When I read back and read my complaints about OKC, I realized I was being ridiculous. Did you realize it when you read it? If you did, will you comment and point this out to me next time?! It’s okay, I promise. That’s what we’re supposed to be doing here. I’m The Blonde..and everybody else? You’re the blind. You’re leading me. Whether you should be or not!