I have been doing this Reverb10 project, but haven’t had anything relevant to post. I find the topics entertaining, but I have yet to relate one back to me, my growth toward a relationship, or dating. But today’s prompt seems like something I would normally work through here on this blog. So in addition to writing for myself, I’d like to post it here as well. You may see several more of the Reverb10 posts from me, and you may not..as I don’t know the topics ahead of time! Here’s today’s prompt:
Beautifully different. Think about what makes you different and
what you do that lights people up. Reflect on all the things that make you
different – you’ll find they’re what make you beautiful.
I spend a lot of time stuck in my head, in my own thoughts. And often I see someone who is married, or in a relationship, or doing something I sort of wish I was doing..and I think I’m The Blonde. And I have *SO* much more to offer in a relationship! Why do they get it and I don’t?
But I read the prompt and I sat down to write and I couldn’t really come up with much. But I know that there has to be something about me that is different, maybe not different from every single other person in the world, but different enough that I can stand up and say “Take a look at me.”
I think I am mainly proud about two things with regards to my personality, and I think these two things make me different from most people, males and females.
1) I am proud that I have a great sense of humor. I enjoy dishing out the humor, but I can also take it. Last year, on a trip to Vegas, I was hanging out with someone I had just met hours earlier–a friend of a friend. And he was mercilessly teasing me, mostly because I was inebriated and deserved some poking! And all of a sudden, I looked up from my seat, smiled the biggest smile, and let him have it back. I cannot remember his crack, I cannot remember my crack…but I remember his response. He looked at our mutual friend and said “This girl is incredible! Most people would have cried by now…but she’s dishing it right back at me. You are one of the most awesome people I’ve met.”
I think of people who are unable to take jokes but are able to dish them out, and I find them to be such bad sports. And for some reason, that’s one of my least favorite traits in human-beings. I think I am different from a lot of people in that I am not a bad sport. I’m willing to play the game, both by taking the heat and giving it out, all while smiling and knowing it’s in good fun.
2) I am ready to have fun. I didn’t realize that it was so rare to find people who are willing to have a good time until I became someone who was willing to have a good time. Long ago, before I was The Blonde.. I was The Girlfriend. And I wasn’t fun. I was reserved and had certain notions about what was and was not ‘for me’. And because I wanted to be ‘above that’ or, I’ll say it, smarter than everyone else..I eliminated a lot of things that I found out later I really am interested in trying. The new Blonde has found a joie de vivre in trying new things and branching out.
Besides finding a lot of things enjoyable, I’ve also found that it’s hard to find other people who are also similarly open. I look at everything I do as a potential extremely-awesome-situation. And yeah, sometimes I’m disappointed. The training session I was in this morning wasn’t ground-breaking nor did it erupt into a break-dance-session. But I went into it with an open mind, expecting to have a good time and at the very least….it was just a change of pace. A breath of fresh air in an otherwise average week. Maybe my sense of always being on the edge of possibility could be summed up by saying I’m optimistic now. And for some reason, I feel like that’s a rare trait.
So…I think these are two things that do, indeed, make me beautiful and give me a leg up on the competition out there in the dating world. Now, how to show these things on an online dating profile…that gets a little more tricky. But somehow I’ve got to get out of this mindset that I am awesome but nobody will ever see it. I am awesome. But it’s my job to advertise that information to more people.