Really? How long did that study take?
Because let’s face it, when someone approaches you in public, our first instinct is probably to assume they’re going to be lame, boring, creepy, or all three. If someone feeds you a line, it’s annoying. They’re approaching you like an object and not as a human. When someone comes up to you, is friendly but respects your space, and carries on a normal conversation..it’s more than refreshing. It can be a real turn on. I can’t be the only person in the world more turned on by an honest effort of communication rather than a pick up line…can I?
But don’t get too cocky, folks. “Hi” is not the new “Your place or mine?”. While I agree that simply introducing yourself and starting a conversation is the most effective way to interact with anyone, I will say that you’ve got to have something behind the “hello” that keeps the conversation moving. Something that makes the other person want to keep talking and dive deeper.
On a date I was recently on, the guy and I hadn’t spoken more than 3 minutes total in person. We met for a drink. I’ll be honest, this was less like a date and more like meeting someone in a bar. So beyond the “hello” and “how are you?” the converastion needed to pick up. Rather than asking me the standard “where are you from what do you do for fun” run on sentence style questions, he said “tell me your life story”.
It was brilliant. And though I didn’t on a second date, I give him props for wowing me with a spectacular follow up to “hello”. “Tell me your life story” seemed exciting. Yeah, it’s a ‘line’, but it’s not cheesy. It lets me have some leeway with what I want to tell, and makes for a longer answer than “job.” “home town.” Telling your life story is great because shoot-off conversations come from the story you tell.
I won’t lie, I’m going to use this line. It worked well, carried the conversation for more than an hour, and was pretty crafty if you ask me. From the time I said “I was born at a Putt-Putt Golf Course” things were off and running.
Yeah, it’s important not to use a cheesy line. But it’s also important not to ask boring follow up questions.
So, do you have anything that you use after “hello”? Do you think asking a clever question is important?